I am writing today sitting in my office at school, where I work my day job. I write while anticipating The One Gathering approaching, the energy building. It's an interesting dichotomy to be existing in these two worlds, of my day job at school, and my spiritual job of spreading light on a stage format. I practice spreading light wherever I may be but I must say it is very grounding to work in a high school atmosphere. It sometimes is easy to drop out of a high vibration of thought, surrounded in a school that tends to be at a lower frequency of vibration. It is a challenge on some days to rise above it, rather then matching the consciousness of the building at large. This experience is very much like one of many we experience when in the company of those who may not be as expanded in consciousness- whether that's w/family, friends, or within a work environment.
How do you stay elevated in thought/consciousness when others you encounter may not be? What works for me is to remind myself to think positive when thoughts of lower vibration enter my mind. I may encounter many angry parents, students, or co-workers throughout the day that challenge me to stay at a higher frequency. It has become more noticeable as of late, the subtle differences in vibration with myself and with environments I am in. The school setting being very palpable. Lets just say, it is a very good training ground. Eventually, I will most likely not be a match, in vibration, to continue working at this site, just as in everything in life that soon shifts as you do. Over the years, many of my relationships have shifted, with friendships falling away due to the energy no longer being a match in frequency. There has been more discord within my family relationships as well because we have different perceptions of the world and the events that are occurring socially.
Living in a society that is currently more based in fear then in trust, can become alienating when you choose to no longer buy into what the majority is- fear. I refuse to buy into fear, so when in the company of those that do, it can be quite a contrast between us. Those of us who do not buy into the old fear based belief systems, tend to get harassed of living in a different world- My response to that is, I have to in order to change this one.
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Friday, September 17, 2010
TheArt of Letting Go
I thought maybe if I treat letting go as an art form, it may help to 'cushion' the process of releasing things/relationships/jobs/etc. that no longer honor me. Sometimes it can be very easy to release when it is something we are ready to move on from. It is the things that we are most attached to that can create difficulty even though continuing does not feel good. The more we resist letting go, the more painful it becomes because whatever it is that we are not allowing to exit, has 'ran it's course' and now is more toxic then ever.
Toxic relationships. When do you realize that a relationship no longer serves? This can be a relationship to a person, a group, or a job. Really, any kind of a relationship. If you no longer feel you are receiving as much back from it that you are giving, my guess is that it is starting to become toxic, alerting you to places within yourself that are 'toxic-' meaning, ways in which you diminish yourself. I believe relationships serve as the biggest teachers in life as they are direct mirrors to the relationship with the Self. If you are feeling unappreciated, invalidated, unheard, unloved, not approved of, criticized, judged, from another-- ask yourself how you have not been appreciating, validating, listening, loving, or approving of yourself.
When I find I'm not feeling valued or appreciated by another-- I ask, "Can I appreciate myself?" Usually the answer is, "Yes." If it is, "No," then that means I have further questions to ask-- "What's keeping me from appreciating the efforts I am making or have made?" "Why don't I feel like all that I have done is enough?" I continue this process until I can get to a place of feeling self appreciated and then the 'charge' of the situation with the other person disintegrates. It's always about YOU, not about the other person and how they are treating you- it's about how you are treating yourself, every time!
Now, you may ask, 'OK, now that I am able to neutralize these feelings I have from my response to the other person, does that mean I continue to be in relationship with them, even though they continue to behave in dishonoring ways toward me?' That is up to you. Just because you are now able to disengage from the other person's drama, does not mean you are obligated to continue in the relationship. You can still feel immense love for someone but no longer engage with them- letting them go with love & light. Monitor your emotional reactions to someone-- if you are feeling bad more of the time then good, then this is probably a dis-serving dynamic for you. I would also guess, the other person feels badly about themselves more of the time then not, as how they are treating you is a direct reflection to their relationship with their Self. Which again, is all about THEM, not you.
It's a lot easier to blame the other person for making you so angry/hurt, that way you don't have to own your feelings. Because, by taking responsibility for your anger/hurt, you have to look into it and deal with it. For most, this is not some place we like to go. But when we do go there, again, it releases the anger/hurt, and the 'charge' of it in relation to the other-- growth happens. The emotional pattern changes w/this new found insight.
It's all a process and we all have our unique paths of learning how to love and honor ourselves. I give the most loving gratitude to the ones I have experienced intense turmoil with because they have taught me how to love myself in the deepest way. It is no longer necessary for me to continue to have 'audience' with someone who does not treat me in honoring ways, the relationship has served it's purpose. As soon as I am able to release these dis-honoring relationships out of my life, I open up to attracting & allowing healthier, more honoring relationships. Now, if I have not learned the lessons from the dynamic, but have released the relationship, I will eventually find myself with a 'new dance partner,' same dance, until I learn the lesson.
You may be asking, 'What about my relationships with my family of origin, they can be dramatic/toxic, what do I do w/those?' Again, that is up to you & assessing the level of 'toxicity' that you can or cannot tolerate. The perspective I have about this is, family is family, I can tolerate & accept them (from a distance) because they are family and the dynamics are not verbally or physically abusive- there are no forms of violence present. Unhealthy dynamics that show up as friends or colleagues, I certainly do not need to tolerate because they are not 'blood'- having these in the family of origin is more then enough to 'hold space for.'
The human experience is such an ongoing, evolving process, and an art form of managing the emotions of the ego! Treat yourself how you would like to be treated. You will find people showing up in your life that reflect that & the ones who do not, will begin to fall away, or will shift to match in quality, if they choose growth. The key is to allow this process of loving yourself more deeply, to unfold by letting go and trusting that everything is happening for the highest and best good of all involved!
Are you ready to live Drama-Free? Topic of my next Blog.
Toxic relationships. When do you realize that a relationship no longer serves? This can be a relationship to a person, a group, or a job. Really, any kind of a relationship. If you no longer feel you are receiving as much back from it that you are giving, my guess is that it is starting to become toxic, alerting you to places within yourself that are 'toxic-' meaning, ways in which you diminish yourself. I believe relationships serve as the biggest teachers in life as they are direct mirrors to the relationship with the Self. If you are feeling unappreciated, invalidated, unheard, unloved, not approved of, criticized, judged, from another-- ask yourself how you have not been appreciating, validating, listening, loving, or approving of yourself.
When I find I'm not feeling valued or appreciated by another-- I ask, "Can I appreciate myself?" Usually the answer is, "Yes." If it is, "No," then that means I have further questions to ask-- "What's keeping me from appreciating the efforts I am making or have made?" "Why don't I feel like all that I have done is enough?" I continue this process until I can get to a place of feeling self appreciated and then the 'charge' of the situation with the other person disintegrates. It's always about YOU, not about the other person and how they are treating you- it's about how you are treating yourself, every time!
Now, you may ask, 'OK, now that I am able to neutralize these feelings I have from my response to the other person, does that mean I continue to be in relationship with them, even though they continue to behave in dishonoring ways toward me?' That is up to you. Just because you are now able to disengage from the other person's drama, does not mean you are obligated to continue in the relationship. You can still feel immense love for someone but no longer engage with them- letting them go with love & light. Monitor your emotional reactions to someone-- if you are feeling bad more of the time then good, then this is probably a dis-serving dynamic for you. I would also guess, the other person feels badly about themselves more of the time then not, as how they are treating you is a direct reflection to their relationship with their Self. Which again, is all about THEM, not you.
It's a lot easier to blame the other person for making you so angry/hurt, that way you don't have to own your feelings. Because, by taking responsibility for your anger/hurt, you have to look into it and deal with it. For most, this is not some place we like to go. But when we do go there, again, it releases the anger/hurt, and the 'charge' of it in relation to the other-- growth happens. The emotional pattern changes w/this new found insight.
It's all a process and we all have our unique paths of learning how to love and honor ourselves. I give the most loving gratitude to the ones I have experienced intense turmoil with because they have taught me how to love myself in the deepest way. It is no longer necessary for me to continue to have 'audience' with someone who does not treat me in honoring ways, the relationship has served it's purpose. As soon as I am able to release these dis-honoring relationships out of my life, I open up to attracting & allowing healthier, more honoring relationships. Now, if I have not learned the lessons from the dynamic, but have released the relationship, I will eventually find myself with a 'new dance partner,' same dance, until I learn the lesson.
You may be asking, 'What about my relationships with my family of origin, they can be dramatic/toxic, what do I do w/those?' Again, that is up to you & assessing the level of 'toxicity' that you can or cannot tolerate. The perspective I have about this is, family is family, I can tolerate & accept them (from a distance) because they are family and the dynamics are not verbally or physically abusive- there are no forms of violence present. Unhealthy dynamics that show up as friends or colleagues, I certainly do not need to tolerate because they are not 'blood'- having these in the family of origin is more then enough to 'hold space for.'
The human experience is such an ongoing, evolving process, and an art form of managing the emotions of the ego! Treat yourself how you would like to be treated. You will find people showing up in your life that reflect that & the ones who do not, will begin to fall away, or will shift to match in quality, if they choose growth. The key is to allow this process of loving yourself more deeply, to unfold by letting go and trusting that everything is happening for the highest and best good of all involved!
Are you ready to live Drama-Free? Topic of my next Blog.
Friday, September 10, 2010
Got Fluidity?
What comes to mind when you hear the word, 'fluidity?' Flow, ease, grace, peaceful.... Those are the words that I think of. The next question I ask is, "How do I achieve fluidity in my every day life?!" It seems quite easy to achieve fluidity when in a stress-free environment, if there is such a thing. And really, fluidity does not have anything to do with what is happening outside of you. Fluidity comes from your inner world. How well are you able to stay grounded and present when faced with a bunch of tasks thrown on you at once or when a crisis erupts? For most of us, it is quite difficult. All we can really do is set an intention to create more inner fluidity in our life, managing our thoughts, and then gradually our outer world should reflect this.
Trick is, how well are we able to cope? I don't know about you, but when I am feeling overwhelmed by thoughts of lack, or when I have a lot of projects and the details that come with them, before me, my initial reaction is to want to stay in bed and not get up. Curl up into a ball and put the covers over my head. Which I have given myself permission to do for an hour, then time to get up! Taking a deep breath helps to pause, ground, and collect myself. To use a metaphor, it's like standing before a huge mountain, wondering how you are ever going to traverse your way over it. Feels quite overwhelming. So, when presented with numerous responsibilities, I sit and mentally step back from all of it, and take a deep breath in. Then I start my trek with one step at a time toward that mountain. First thing's, First. What do I need to do first? I always get direction when I ask that question, then I move from there. If I feel stuck, then I ask for help, or take a walk. What I have learned, is not to make any huge, impacting decisions right away, because I am likely making these from an emotional place, which usually does not serve very well.
Staying fluid. Sounds easy on paper, but mastering this is a process. As it is your thoughts that create your reality. Your thoughts lead you down every road you take. Staying fluid to me, is clearing the thoughts that are negative and that do not match my natural state, of my fluid, blissful, soul. How do we strip away everything that keeps us from experiencing are true soul nature? That's what we are here to figure out, I think... Managing and mastering your thoughts. Is it possible? Yes it is, as anything is possible! You have to be diligent at first, but just like changing any pattern, it takes practice and time.
Becoming aware of your thought patterns is the first step. Acknowledging and experiencing your emotions is also important. In order to have fluidity, we have to allow our emotions to flow through us, by feeling, and then deciding to let them go. We feel stuck, when we do not acknowledge how we are feeling, putting it off, stuffing it down, staying busy to keep distracted. Emotions become stuck which detracts from our ability to be in direct contact with our fluid soul self. Once I get in touch with how I am feeling and allowing that feeling to 'speak' to me, tell me what I'm really upset about, I am able to release it by crying, yelling, or hitting a pillow. Guess what? After that, I feel a lot better, am lighter, and able to experience more ease & grace, w/more clear access to my wise, soul self.
Fluidity is the result of letting go & allowing.... My next topic!
Trick is, how well are we able to cope? I don't know about you, but when I am feeling overwhelmed by thoughts of lack, or when I have a lot of projects and the details that come with them, before me, my initial reaction is to want to stay in bed and not get up. Curl up into a ball and put the covers over my head. Which I have given myself permission to do for an hour, then time to get up! Taking a deep breath helps to pause, ground, and collect myself. To use a metaphor, it's like standing before a huge mountain, wondering how you are ever going to traverse your way over it. Feels quite overwhelming. So, when presented with numerous responsibilities, I sit and mentally step back from all of it, and take a deep breath in. Then I start my trek with one step at a time toward that mountain. First thing's, First. What do I need to do first? I always get direction when I ask that question, then I move from there. If I feel stuck, then I ask for help, or take a walk. What I have learned, is not to make any huge, impacting decisions right away, because I am likely making these from an emotional place, which usually does not serve very well.
Staying fluid. Sounds easy on paper, but mastering this is a process. As it is your thoughts that create your reality. Your thoughts lead you down every road you take. Staying fluid to me, is clearing the thoughts that are negative and that do not match my natural state, of my fluid, blissful, soul. How do we strip away everything that keeps us from experiencing are true soul nature? That's what we are here to figure out, I think... Managing and mastering your thoughts. Is it possible? Yes it is, as anything is possible! You have to be diligent at first, but just like changing any pattern, it takes practice and time.
Becoming aware of your thought patterns is the first step. Acknowledging and experiencing your emotions is also important. In order to have fluidity, we have to allow our emotions to flow through us, by feeling, and then deciding to let them go. We feel stuck, when we do not acknowledge how we are feeling, putting it off, stuffing it down, staying busy to keep distracted. Emotions become stuck which detracts from our ability to be in direct contact with our fluid soul self. Once I get in touch with how I am feeling and allowing that feeling to 'speak' to me, tell me what I'm really upset about, I am able to release it by crying, yelling, or hitting a pillow. Guess what? After that, I feel a lot better, am lighter, and able to experience more ease & grace, w/more clear access to my wise, soul self.
Fluidity is the result of letting go & allowing.... My next topic!
Thursday, September 2, 2010
School's Back In Session
Into the first couple days of September..... Did summer ever happen? I feel like it got skipped over. First day of school was yesterday, experienced some whiplash with already tending to troubled high school kids. If 7 d/a suspensions sets the tone for the intensity of this school year- yipes. The last 3 years have seemed to harvest more stressed, complex youth- my work with them has been the most intense it's ever been in the 11 years I've served. I think they're feeling the effects of an ever changing world consciousness that shifts financial institutions, family consciousness, consciousness of the entire planet. Kids are so very sensitive. I really feel for them and am glad I can be put in a place where I can be of service to them. Be it, a school setting that deals with a bureaucracy, but I do my best to focus on the kids that I see. My heart seems to be growing more tender these days too though. I can feel sad at all the fear that exists amongst us and yet understand how it serves the purpose of being a catalyst to transform the way we view and think about things. Times are a changen' for sure. I think we all need to support each other as we adapt to the many changes taking place. It isn't easy being human sometimes. We all have our struggles from time to time. Life is a roller coaster ride with it's lows and highs! It's how well we are able to let go during the ups and downs to continue a fluid state. Fluidity- the master key to everyday living.
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